Thursday, September 11, 2008

9/11
I'm watching a documentary about 9/11. It has a lot of archive footage that I've never seen before and I have to say it's horrifying. Mark and I were talking about how we would feel if one us had been lost in a plane or in one of the buildings. He said he probably hate all Muslims forever and would never get over it. Would want all Muslim countries vaporized.
I guess I understand that. I can't say that I wouldn't feel the same. But were it me in the building I guess I would want him to forgive and be happy than feel vengeful and unhappy. Maybe I'm nuts.

Monday, September 08, 2008

Palin: wrong woman, wrong message
Sarah Palin shares nothing but a chromosome with Hillary Clinton. She is Phyllis Schlafly, only younger.
By Gloria Steinem September 4, 2008
Here's the good news: Women have become so politically powerful that even the anti-feminist right wing -- the folks with a headlock on the Republican Party -- are trying to appease the gender gap with a first-ever female vice president. We owe this to women -- and to many men too -- who have picketed, gone on hunger strikes or confronted violence at the polls so women can vote. We owe it to Shirley Chisholm, who first took the "white-male-only" sign off the White House, and to Hillary Rodham Clinton, who hung in there through ridicule and misogyny to win 18 million votes.But here is even better news: It won't work. This isn't the first time a boss has picked an unqualified woman just because she agrees with him and opposes everything most other women want and need. Feminism has never been about getting a job for one woman. It's about making life more fair for women everywhere. It's not about a piece of the existing pie; there are too many of us for that. It's about baking a new pie.

Join the reader discussion on Gloria Steinem's Op-Ed article
Selecting Sarah Palin, who was touted all summer by Rush Limbaugh, is no way to attract most women, including die-hard Clinton supporters. Palin shares nothing but a chromosome with Clinton. Her down-home, divisive and deceptive speech did nothing to cosmeticize a Republican convention that has more than twice as many male delegates as female, a presidential candidate who is owned and operated by the right wing and a platform that opposes pretty much everything Clinton's candidacy stood for -- and that Barack Obama's still does. To vote in protest for McCain/Palin would be like saying, "Somebody stole my shoes, so I'll amputate my legs."This is not to beat up on Palin. I defend her right to be wrong, even on issues that matter most to me. I regret that people say she can't do the job because she has children in need of care, especially if they wouldn't say the same about a father. I get no pleasure from imagining her in the spotlight on national and foreign policy issues about which she has zero background, with one month to learn to compete with Sen. Joe Biden's 37 years' experience.Palin has been honest about what she doesn't know. When asked last month about the vice presidency, she said, "I still can't answer that question until someone answers for me: What is it exactly that the VP does every day?" When asked about Iraq, she said, "I haven't really focused much on the war in Iraq."
She was elected governor largely because the incumbent was unpopular, and she's won over Alaskans mostly by using unprecedented oil wealth to give a $1,200 rebate to every resident. Now she is being praised by McCain's campaign as a tax cutter, despite the fact that Alaska has no state income or sales tax. Perhaps McCain has opposed affirmative action for so long that he doesn't know it's about inviting more people to meet standards, not lowering them. Or perhaps McCain is following the Bush administration habit, as in the Justice Department, of putting a job candidate's views on "God, guns and gays" ahead of competence. The difference is that McCain is filling a job one 72-year-old heartbeat away from the presidency.So let's be clear: The culprit is John McCain. He may have chosen Palin out of change-envy, or a belief that women can't tell the difference between form and content, but the main motive was to please right-wing ideologues; the same ones who nixed anyone who is now or ever has been a supporter of reproductive freedom. If that were not the case, McCain could have chosen a woman who knows what a vice president does and who has thought about Iraq; someone like Texas Sen. Kay Bailey Hutchison or Sen. Olympia Snowe of Maine. McCain could have taken a baby step away from right-wing patriarchs who determine his actions, right down to opposing the Violence Against Women Act.Palin's value to those patriarchs is clear: She opposes just about every issue that women support by a majority or plurality. She believes that creationism should be taught in public schools but disbelieves global warming; she opposes gun control but supports government control of women's wombs; she opposes stem cell research but approves "abstinence-only" programs, which increase unwanted births, sexually transmitted diseases and abortions; she tried to use taxpayers' millions for a state program to shoot wolves from the air but didn't spend enough money to fix a state school system with the lowest high-school graduation rate in the nation; she runs with a candidate who opposes the Fair Pay Act but supports $500 million in subsidies for a natural gas pipeline across Alaska; she supports drilling in the Arctic National Wildlife Reserve, though even McCain has opted for the lesser evil of offshore drilling. She is Phyllis Schlafly, only younger.I don't doubt her sincerity. As a lifetime member of the National Rifle Assn., she doesn't just support killing animals from helicopters, she does it herself. She doesn't just talk about increasing the use of fossil fuels but puts a coal-burning power plant in her own small town. She doesn't just echo McCain's pledge to criminalize abortion by overturning Roe vs. Wade, she says that if one of her daughters were impregnated by rape or incest, she should bear the child. She not only opposes reproductive freedom as a human right but implies that it dictates abortion, without saying that it also protects the right to have a child.So far, the major new McCain supporter that Palin has attracted is James Dobson of Focus on the Family. Of course, for Dobson, "women are merely waiting for their husbands to assume leadership," so he may be voting for Palin's husband.Being a hope-a-holic, however, I can see two long-term bipartisan gains from this contest.Republicans may learn they can't appeal to right-wing patriarchs and most women at the same time. A loss in November could cause the centrist majority of Republicans to take back their party, which was the first to support the Equal Rights Amendment and should be the last to want to invite government into the wombs of women.And American women, who suffer more because of having two full-time jobs than from any other single injustice, finally have support on a national stage from male leaders who know that women can't be equal outside the home until men are equal in it. Barack Obama and Joe Biden are campaigning on their belief that men should be, can be and want to be at home for their children.This could be huge.Gloria Steinem is an author, feminist organizer and co-founder of the Women's Media Center. She supported Hillary Clinton and is now supporting Barack Obama.

Saturday, September 06, 2008

Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Okay so Mark makes up jokes and he insisted I post a few....

What do call it when you bring a dead animal on a plane?

A Carrion!

What do you call a small magic elf who lives downtown?

A metro gnome!

What do you call a hip hop onion?

A Rap Scallion!

Where do bad grapes go when they die?

Raisin hell!


the carrion joke was yesterday and the rap scallion was a few days after I met him. I knew then he was the one for me :)
The Bee that's Me



Melissa meaning-

In Greek mythology Melissa is the name of one of the nymphs who helped save Zeus from his father, Cronus. She hid him in the hills and fed him milk from Amalthea and honey. When Cronus discovered this, he turned her into a worm. After Zeus came into power, he changed her into a queen bee, not being able to change her from an insect form.

I have always been the bee. Even at three I was the bee (see Eric I can rhyme too) I collect bees...stuffed ones, potholders, little boxes, jewelry (that is my favorite) a certain "toy" we won't talk about (my second favorite) curtains, plates, glasses anything and everything bee. When I turned thirty I got a bee tattoo. I thought and thought about what to get to mark myself forevermore and that was the only thing I could live with forever. Mark calls me the bee. Or B.O.D (bee of death) If I'm mad.

So that's who I am...the bee :) Bzzzzzzzzz


These are the plans for the house when it is finished. I have no idea when that will be but isn't it cool?

Monday, September 01, 2008

SEX!!!!!!!!

This whole Sara Palin has got me to thinking about why I didn't end up in a similar situation as a teen. I grew up in an extremely religious family. I knew from an early age that I didn't believe the same thing that the rest of my family did. The religion I grew up in does not condone pre martial sex.

Now I realize my mother is wise. She never had that conversation in a way that made me think the only reason not to have sex was for religious reasons. I found her diaphragm (please god never let her see this) at a very early age and asked about it. She told me quite frankly what it was. Kind of just matter of factly imparted information to me. Told me she didn't believe it is right to have sex out of marriage but just so I knew this is how it's done, this is what you do to protect yourself and that she got pregnant the FIRST time she didn't protect herself. FIRST?? Holy shit.

I held on to my virginity for a very long time. Not because God wouldn't love me but out of fear that I'd get pregnant. I can honestly say I have NEVER been carried away and not protected myself. I also knew at an early age I didn't want children and I have never had a pregnancy scare.

Why can't people understand that merely imparting information in a non judgemental factual way can be a powerful tool. Knowing what to do didn't make me do it. It made me NOT do it. I knew how to protect myself.

Maybe Sara Palin would have still gotten herself pregnant and I really don't know what her mother did or didn't tell her. But if she follows the pattern of these religious right folks that conversation was probably laced with threats, guilt and judgement. Teenage girls are famously recalcitrant and these tactics can have the opposite effect that the parents desire. I could go on and on about how angry these abstinence programs make me and how ineffective they are. Sex is like one of the best things EVER and remember how it was when you first figured that out?

Be honest and factual and leave your personal agenda at the door. If you have raised your children right in all other aspects of their lives that will reflect in this choice.

Conundrum
So Mark and I live on the South Fork of the Snoqualmie River, high up above the river. He owns the property from the house all the way down to the river but you can't build down below because it's a flood plain.
So here is the conundrum. People come from across the river and set up little fishing parties on his property. They seem completely unaware that it's like if we came to their house and set up a Hibachi in their backyard. It's pretty far away so it isn't too intrusive in our everyday lives, it just seems a little arrogant. There is no road or trail to get to the little sandy beach and you can clearly see the house. Tonight there were about six people down there with chairs yucking it up and fishing. It seems unfriendly to put up a "No Trespassing" sign but at the same time it feels a bit weird to have them there. Maybe "Smile, you are in our backyard!" What do you think?

Sunday, August 31, 2008

The House

Rather than post the house pics one by one online I post them on my spaces page. You can reach them at this link http://misslolasacademy.spaces.live.com/photos/cns!54DE7438DE4BB251!216/ I took some pictures in March 2007 and then from the same angle in August 2008 it's interesting seeing the house progress. Check out the slate shower!!

Saturday, August 30, 2008

Racism

According to the Oxford English Dictionary, racism is a belief or ideology that all members of each racial group possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially to distinguish it as being either superior or inferior to another racial group or racial groups. The Merriam-Webster's Dictionary defines racism as a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular racial group, and that it is also the prejudice based on such a belief. The Macquarie Dictionary defines racism as: "the belief that human races have distinctive characteristics which determine their respective cultures, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule or dominate others."

So if I am reading this correctly to tell a joke with a racial slant does not make you a racist, right?

Monday, August 25, 2008


My Sister (or how I tortured her)
Travis your post made me think of all the things I did to my sister growing up. I am the younger she the older by three years but I am a bit more of an outgoing adventurous type. She is careful and guarded. Thus, I could torture the shit out of her.
She always seemed so worried about things. So I would gleefully pick out those things and bug her...endlessly. I'm a little ashamed at this point but at the same time I still do it. It's like if I know she won't approve or will painfully disapprove I will go to extremes to point it out to her. She was a Girl Scout I made a point of being a Blue Bird. If she loved a song I hated it. I have no idea why I made it my mission in life to be different but I did.
She doesn't like heights and I remember as a child going up into the mountains and hanging over edges."Look Laurie" and then practically dangling by my fingertips from the side of the road til she was blue with worry. Just mean.
My favorite memory amazes me. I was less then ten (I know this from the memory of the rooms we had) and had a unbelievable commitment to this prank. We had a small gray mouse toy. You know the kind that looks just like a mouse and is covered in gray rabbit fur. I tried to find a picture but it looked more like a mouse than the above picture. She hated it. Couldn't have it touching her and screamed if it did. My mother repeatedly told me to throw it away or threw it away herself. I would dig it out every time. My favorite thing to do with this toy was hide it in my sister's room. In a pocket of her robe, behind a book in her bookcase, in a shoe... wherever I could think to put it and then wait for the inevitable scream (my room was next to hers). What I find amazing about this now is that I had the patience to wait for the payoff at ten. It sometimes was immediately but sometimes it was days even weeks before my mom would come storming into my room yelling about being mean to my sister...
I always thought I was such a bratty hideous child that tortured my unassuming sister until recently. We were talking about my mouse trick and they asked if I remembered being frightened at Washelli cemetary in Seattle or at Spirit Lake as a kid. Well sure I thought the bodies were coming out of the ground (a sprinkler system was being put in) at the cemetary and Jaws was in the lake. Well who do you think told you that?
Ahhhhhhhhh, touche sister touche :)

Sunday, August 24, 2008



I will admit it I love ambien. I am a life long insomniac. Sometimes I think it's because I have super sonic hearing or sensitivity to light or just a brain that cannot turn off at night. But for whatever reason I really never get a good nights sleep.

This went on until I met Mark. He had one and gave it to me. I hung on to it with fear and trepidation. I'd heard all the horror stories of people driving, eating and hallucinating. I waited til Mark was with me and then...nothing happened. Bummer. I tried it again and fell immediately into a deep restful sleep that lasted until the next morning??!! Wow!

So I got my own RX for it only to realize they tease you with new stuff that isn't supposed to be addictive and then tell you it is. Is my good nights sleep a gateway behavior into other good things? Flossing maybe? So I get my ambien refilled every three months and can sleep three night a week. I choose them carefully. So they have a pill that stops headaches and you can take it everyday...why not this? It's like someone is dangling a good nights sleep over my head just a bit too high for me to reach....sigh

Saturday, August 23, 2008


Victory!!
So I got my money back on Friday! Here's what happened...
I sent that last email with no hope that the fifth time would be the charm. But then Thursday night got a phone all from her. As per usual I ignored it. I haven't been taking her calls because I haven't been confident I could not yell and scream. I figured the best way to resolve this was to not stoop to her level. So I ignored the call.
She didn't leave a message but a few minutes later I got a text asking me to come to her house and get the check. Obviously she again hadn't mailed it when she said she would. She said she wanted to make sure I got it and get a receipt from me. I told her there was no way I was going out of my way for her and if she wanted to give me the check she would have to bring it to me.
She asked where and after a few minutes of back and forth we arranged a meeting place close to my house but not at my house (like I want her to know where I live!)
So having a while I took a shower but then I had second thoughts. First of all she says it's a cashiers check but do I know how to recognize a forgery? Second if it is a forgery, I gave her a receipt. How would that play out in court? She could say I had taken her money and run.
So I texted back, said I'd changed my mind and would only accept cash. So I agreed to meet her at her bank Friday at noon to cash the check. She was mad but agreed.
The next day I got there a little early. She texted and said she'd be late. I told her I would give her ten minutes and then I was leaving. That worried her I think and she texted me every turn she took from her house until she called from her car. She was finally there.
I met her in the parking lot. I moved in there in January and she was a bit of a drunk but kind of normal. Now she had her stripper tits (sorry no other way to describe them) on full display in a hot pink short tank top, short shorts and new butt length skanky extensions. Biting my tongue I followed her in. She gave me a constant string of excuses...I said nothing. She handed me the check... I said nothing. We walked to the counter...I said nothing. I got my money (plus court costs)...I said nothing, didn't give her a receipt and walked out the door.
I never have to deal with that creature again. But I am considering reporting the house to the Health Department...too mean?

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Okay I probably should give this landlord thing a rest and blog about something else, right? So this will be the last one until the court date or if by some miracle we settle. Sooo,

I wrote her one last email in fit of rage...

Here is my address one more time PO Box --- Preston, Wa 98050

I’m not really sure why you have now told me you will mail this four times. What kind of game you are playing with me. I am NOT playing. By now you know I filed in small claims court. You have no right to continue to keep this money. Do not call or text or write me again telling me you are sending this money. I will consider dropping it if I get it but I will not tolerate being played with. So knock it off. Last minute won’t work either….soon as in a day or two is the only acceptable action on your part. Done playing, overnight it if need be but quit f’ing with me.


and received this...

i have a money order I pulled out over a week ago. i am mailing it today. you will see the date on it. the check was in my car. i have not been around much and busy with the business divorse and kids. its been difficult, but no intentions of not paying you. i would have droped it off but I dont know where you live.

Nichol


Hee hee I kind of am asking for this aren't I? I have a hard time with the last word...I like to have it. Sigh. What I don't understand is why she keeps saying that she's sending it? Does she think I will say "Oh gosh that's great let me drop this case now"? And of course she doesn't know where I live, sheesh. Would I want that train wreck showing up here?

Sigh sigh

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Oh for F$#*s Sake

So crazy landlord sent me a text Monday saying "I'm at the Post Office now with a money order. Going to put it in the mail" to which I responded "Sure you are" And....nothing.

So I texted her back "I do not believe a word you say. See you in court"

My question is why does she keep saying she's doing it?

Sunday, August 10, 2008





My Favorites


Dog photography is difficult. Your subjects don't behave but I always try to capture each client with a picture. These are my favorites

Saturday, August 09, 2008

John Edwards

So a fellow blogger has been talking about this and I'm always afraid of taking up comment space with all my opinions so here I go...

His wife has cancer, he WAS running for President, he had an affair, the media found out and exposed it. I'm sorry to my two loyal readers (I probably shouldn't alienate the two people who actually read this:) but the media in this regard disgusts me. What was the reason for bringing this to light? Because he MIGHT have become President? Well he wasn't. Because it's IMMORAL? Oh shut the fuck up those without sin cast the first stone.

I felt this way when the whole Bill and Monica came up. Let Hillary deal with it, I'm pretty sure she can and will. "Oh but he lied!" Yes, and in my opinion he should say "none of your business" and then refuse to speak of it again because it's not my business.

We have found out time and time again that powerful men tend to be philanderers. No I wouldn't want to be married to them but I don't see who it effects their jobs. Unless of course you count the stress of having to dodge THE MEDIA. Sure that could change how they do their jobs but is this something I have the right to know? GRRR.

The thing I find most disturbing is that his wife is dying of cancer, he has children and it could have been kept quiet. Why in the hell was this necessary??
http://www.newsweek.com/id/149280&GT1=43001

Oh my god click number 13

Friday, August 08, 2008



Newton and Lola bunk down for the night:)
A Poll

So we were having one of those nonsensical conversations again and Mark suggested a poll.

What religion is your cat or dog?

Lola is a Wiccan...she likes to frolic naked in nature.

Bismarck and Newton are Muslim...Persian don't you know.

Aknot is a Buddist...a Himalayan.